Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby ladybug76135 » Sat Mar 16, 638622 1:35 am

((hugs))... so sorry.

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby wrennie » Wed Mar 06, 638622 7:42 am

Denise, so sorry to hear this. sending you healing thoughts. take care.

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby joker » Wed Feb 20, 638622 7:38 pm

I am so sorry Denise. Hugs.

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby suleaf » Sun Dec 05, 638619 9:53 pm

Denise. ((HUGS)) I am so sorry.....

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby brianned5 » Sat Dec 04, 638619 9:31 pm

I'm very sorry for your loss. I've not been through a miscarriage but my personal feelings are if I did go through one I would want to do it "naturally" so I could have the baby in tact. I know that's not always possible and you have to do what is best for you. I'm so sorry and good luck.

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby amandamm » Sat Dec 04, 638619 9:00 pm

{{hugs}} Last year today I had a d&c for my first miscarriage. I was 10 weeks, and waited about 10 days for SOMETHING to start... nothing did, I felt lost and in limbo about it. Since nothing was going on, I scheduled the d&c, I wanted to get on with life, and mourn. The experience was hard, but much more on an emotional level. Today, I am trying to be positive about it, it was an experience, and I think it has helped me in a lot of ways, especially putting things in perspective.
With my second miscarriage it was earlier, and I would have had a d&c again, but there really wasn't time. Which was fine, it wasn't as painful as I expected, and it didn't last that long.
Good luck with your decision, either way... I requested 2 ultrasounds after we found out the baby had passed away, I needed to be sure before taking such measures.

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby missgamecock » Sat Dec 04, 638619 4:50 am

I opted for the d&c with my one at 13 1/2 weeks. I'll email you more later when I get off of work. I have to leave for work now.

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby hannahsmom » Wed Nov 24, 638619 4:30 pm

Oh, Denise. I am so very sorry to hear this. I was waiting for an update on your ultrasound, but never expected this. My sister had two losses - the first was a D&C and the second was natural. I know they were both hard on her emotionally. Sending you hugs....

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby atvlady » Wed Nov 24, 638619 11:45 am

Sorry to hear the bad news. You have to do what you feel comfortable with. I have had 3 previous miscarriages. With all 3 of mine I knew what was happening so I decided to hold out and let nature take its course. But you have to do what you feel you need. {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

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Re : Angry, numb and confused - UPDATE

Postby mom29 » Wed Nov 24, 638619 5:17 am

Denise, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.

When I went in for a routine prenatal visit at 14 weeks I found out my baby had died. My doctor was leaving for vacation that evening, the doctor covering for him did not like doing D&C's after 12 weeks and didn't want to induce labor until my body started miscarrying on it's own. I had to wait three weeks and the wait was so hard because I kept wondering when things would start. I had to watch a friend's child one afternoon and I wanted so much to back out of doing that, but my husband didn't understand so I just watched the child. When I was finally induced I was glad I did it that way because I got to see my son. It was sad, but I was also in awe as I held my perfectly formed baby in the palm of my hand. Seeing him brought a lot of closure to me.

When I miscarried at seven weeks earlier this month, I began spotting in the evening and passed the embryo & placenta completely intact the next afternoon. I'd say my most overwhelming feeling next to sadness was tremendous relief that I didn't have to wait a long time for the miscarriage to start (my symptoms had disappeared and I suspected I was going to miscarry). I bled for seven days and had no problems. My hcg level quickly dropped down under 50 when it was checked five days later.

I think you should do whatever you are most comfortable doing. If the thought of waiting to begin miscarrying on your own would be too much for you then a D&C might be a good option for you. If the thought of having a D&C bothers you then miscarrying at home might be your preference. Do whatever you are most comfortable doing during this sad time for you.

Hugs to you,

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