Feeling Confused...

Are you considering having another child after preeclampsia? Trying again after preeclampsia can be an emotional challenge. You can find support with others who share your concerns here.
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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby kbielec » Tue Sep 06, 638929 11:11 am

Wow...I just read all these and I must say - I feel exactly the same. Cheated, sad, failure. And to top it off - I have two stepsons who are great, but I can't have a baby with my husband...

Hang in there, all of you. I try to tell myself everyday how blessed I already am, to have a great husband, stepsons and my life...

Still hurts though - for sure.

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby kellikbock » Mon Sep 05, 638929 5:25 am

Can I just say, the pediatrician did it again at another visit. Plus the phrase "I don't know how many other scare tactics I can give you to not get pregnant again." Ooooooooookkkkkkkkkk, and breath. So, if I do get pregnant lets make a mental note to not tell her until I'm showing....even then it'd be questionable! Ya, no scarce tactics needed.....but support for whatever decision my husband, myself and my doctors come up with would be nice! :oP.

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby kellikbock » Tue May 21, 638926 7:12 pm

I have an ap. on my phone that allows me to track everything, BUT I do know from my second preg. that I don't ovulate according to the "normal" cylces that other women have...SO, I feel like I'm always in the DANGER zone, lol...I am not using any B/C because I can't handle the idea of putting hormones into my body (and my doctor advised me against it)...and I don't want my husband to get snipped until we are SURE what we want to do.
We've actually talked very seriously about adopting, and plan on taking the classes required to do so...SO MUCH TO CONSIDER!!!

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby preemomof2 » Tue May 21, 638926 3:15 pm

I just track my cycle on mymonthlycycles.com I'm pretty regular so it was easy for us, when the little calendar shows the bunny then those are 'the days' lol.

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby kellikbock » Tue May 21, 638926 12:38 pm

I don't really know what got into my pediatrician...and this wasn't a mean spirited conversation, either. It was like a friendly conversation (as usual) talking about wear I shop for the kids, where I get their haircuts done and WAMM-O this subject came up and I got an honest opinion! I think that I'm super sensitive to that subject anyway...so talking about the reality of it strips me raw and exposes emotion that isn't pretty lurking within...
I had an appointment with a MFM a while back, but it seemed unevenful. He was so at ease about it all, and I guess that I was prepared for something more. Maybe at this point, I know too much? Being ignorant is a bit blissful...dangerous...but blissful =0)
Right now, we are in the process of moving & I wouldn't TTC until we are fully settled somwhere to take some stress out of it...SOME! Also, we won't actively TTC (like tracking temps and cycles...) I'd just let it happen because I'd be freaking out too much to plan it!

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby preemomof2 » Tue May 21, 638926 10:17 am

I have my 2 amazing boys, and 2 PE experiences. Cheated? Absolutely. Terrified? Always. I am not on a BC so each month I'm a little weary. I've never been on bc, and only gotten pregnant the 2 times we tried. Lately we've been talking about another. But it's so scary. I've seen so many horrible stories from premies that fought so hard, moms that were in comas, and the ultimate...

It's not only about if I made it through the pregnancy..it's about the damage that it's going to cause if I did. Even if I had another and we both made it...what kind of damage might happen to the long term? Will I have to deal with heart, liver and kidney issues forever?

I still am hopeful..we havent written off having more...but it feels like we sorta have? I will say that when the time comes and we decide yes that I will be getting the complete work up and working with an maternal fetal specialist from day 1. I want to be sure the FIRST signs are seen and that it is managed properly.

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby veronica44 » Tue May 21, 638926 6:55 am

Kelli, Why would a pediatrician say something so horrible to you??? I'm blown away by what they said, extremely insensitive not too say unprofessional...

I can really relate to what you wrote. People are bringing these strong big babies home left and right lately and it has brought back some painful feelings I haven't yet dealt with. These new babies are so content, nursing so well right from the beginning. I was wigging out from PE postpartum nearly seizing and was on mag so my daughter didn't room in - then her sucking was weak for nursing and noone told me I should have been pumping too and so my milk gradually dried up over the next couple of months. I want more children, but I so dearly wish PE/induction etc. can be avoided next time...

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby kellikbock » Sat May 11, 638926 11:48 am

It is very emotional. What is worse, a women won't really know what is in store for her unless she is rolls that dice to get pregnant again....that is a HUGE decision to make & it kind of takes the romance out of being pregnant...ya, romance, in every sense of the word (if you get the underlying meaning there...when I'm with my husband, lol)...being so terrified that I'm going to get pregnant really is always in the back of my mind!

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby ninilives » Sat May 11, 638926 2:43 am

I can feel you, my friend just had her second child 5 month ago and is pregnant again. I'm happy for her but my inside is crumbling. My PE has been 2 1/2 years but I'm scared. I'm scared to die. I had postpartum PE and truly worry about the next pregnancy. It is so emotional.

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Re : Feeling Confused...

Postby kellikbock » Tue Feb 08, 638924 4:06 pm

Yes, I love this forum. I love that I can express my fears and thoughts & there are at least a dozen women who feel or have felt like I do. I'm not alone! Wow, what a concept!
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I've been having some crazy dreams lately with little babies in them. Sigh...I'd like to get off this roller coaster ride, now! =0)


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