so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

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kerisue
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Re : so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby kerisue » Thu Sep 23, 2010 11:22 pm

I expected the worst at every visit in my pregnancy with Millie and that was before I knew anything about pre-eclampsia.... can't imagine what it'll be like if I get pregnant again, after all that's happened.... 10x worse I'm sure. Sorry you have to feel that way too.

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Re : so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby julieb » Thu Sep 23, 2010 04:42 pm

As everyone else has said, it is easier to prepare yourself for the worst and then get good news. I was preparing myself for complications and bedrest the whole second pregnancy and one good thing is that when they did happen, much later with #2, I was more emotionally prepared for it. I still wish we could all have completely carefree pregnancies though!

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Re : so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby emmyab » Tue Sep 21, 2010 11:08 pm

i feel the same way! its like waiting for the other shoe to drop!!! its sad i feel like im being robbed the "joyful pregnancy" prepare for the worst pray for the best... sadly has become my mato

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Re : so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby longhaulfamily » Tue Sep 21, 2010 09:19 pm

I don't have any good advice because I struggle with the same thing. I tear up at least half the time but they are pretty understanding. My emotions are on oscillate anyway, but I think that it makes sense when we've all been through so much!

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Re : so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby bkanglin » Tue Sep 21, 2010 12:46 am

I think that it is our way of preparing ourselves for if something does happen... we already know what is like to not a have a "perfect pregnancy" and are always on eggshells thinking it will strike again.

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Re : so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby melissam » Mon Sep 20, 2010 11:10 pm

We do it because it is easier to expect the worst and have it turn out okay than it is to expect good things and have them go bad. Being pregnant after a loss or difficult pregnancy robs us of our innocence and it is really hard to move beyond that.

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so sick of expecting the worst at every dr appt

Postby jenmatt1 » Mon Sep 20, 2010 11:02 pm

I am so sick of expecting the worst everytime I have an OB visit. Today everything was great. Baby measuring right on size, good heartbeat, my bp is good today, no issues besides these leg cramps I am having, so why is it I am always expecting the worst every time I walk in that OB office. I just hate feeling that way and had to vent.


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