Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby cgoodi1 » Mon Jun 20, 639566 2:53 am

Thank you to all who have responded. It's been three and a half months since the birth and my original due date is approaching which is making things hard for me. I notice every pregnant person who walks by and am very envious. I am presently under going tests to see if I have any underlying issues. All of my blood work has come back normal but I am still spilling protein which may not be good. I will be doing a 24 hour urine test next week and an FSH blood test. I'm really worried about these tests. My blood pressure is normal at home but sky rockets when I go to the doctor. I hope that everything comes back ok. I'm praying it's not my kidneys. I have two more appointments this month and one in July. I will keep everyone updated. We were hoping to try again this summer but now that the tests are taking awhile to complete it's not looking as good. Please feel free to PM me if anyone wants to talk
Stillbirth - 21 weeks gestation due to severe preeclampsia, HELLP and IUGR - 15/02/12
Baby girl Aria - Induced due to high blood pressure at 36 weeks + 2 days - 7lbs 3oz - 05/03/13

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby wooleybear » Thu Apr 02, 639564 7:35 am

I am so sorry for your loss and my experience was so similar in certain ways, I wrote my experience under the "Confused, emotionally, physically, mentally" if you want to read it. I just experienced this about a week ago, so it is all too fresh for me. I do find reading others stories helpful. It helps you to relate and not feel alone. I wish and Im sure others wish too, that we knew about this disease way in advance. Why is it so misunderstood? I didn't even know what it was when I filled out my first paperwork in the OB office. I think I had to ask the nurse what is was. Once I started swelling and typing in those symptoms I got pre eclampsia pop ups on google. But I didn't feel I had the other signs so it was no need to worry. Plus my doctor kept telling me that the swelling was normal, even though it was in my face and hands too. He said that shortness in breath and vision changes would be more important. I want to blame the doctors and I do to some extent when I look back, but they too are soo clueless about this disease. It is so confusing.

I had no bp or urine issues until my baby girl, Soleil, was dead inside me and at 32 weeks. She was only 2lbs 3 ozs at 32 weeks. You would think the doctors would all have higher tech 3d sonograms and use them every visit with this day in age of technology. My doctor had a low grade one and he mainly just checked her heartbeat on a heartbeat monitor and it was always ok, until my fetal movements became less and less, that was another sign I can't believe I ignored.

I go through so many phases now and it has only been a week, anger, depression, sadness, trying to forget, holding memories, it is a rollercoaster. I don't know what the future holds. I am not with the father and I only want to start trying again too, but that won't happen for some time now that me and the father are not together. I feel your pain, maybe your husband needs some time to grieve and heal too before you start trying again. Even though I won't be trying soon, I will be going back to my old gyno(he doesn't do deliveries so I had to find a new OB doc, but my old gyno is a fertility specialist and I love him, I wish I could have had him through all of this). I want him to run tests on me so I know my health. As women, we need to be more proactive in our health and I am learning this now. I hope you find peace and rest and keep on coming back to to this site, to vent to read, to write to get your feelings out, to educate yourself and others. lots of love :) :)

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby joker » Wed Dec 14, 639560 4:22 pm

I had PE at 19 weeks with my first daughter. I did go on to have a successful pregnancy...I saw an ob/MFM literally once a week, did lovenox shots and was just very closely monitored. Alison was born at 34 weeks. IT is possible to have a baby after a loss! It is stressful, I won't lie about that, but worth it.
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Abigail-born still June 29, 2007; PE/HELLP @ 18 weeks
Alison-4/17/2009; PE/HELLP @ 34 weeks

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby mychaelelaine » Wed Mar 23, 639560 7:52 pm

It's so comforting to be somewhere where everyone understands. Your story sounds so much like mine, many of ours. I'm almost 12 weeks and nervous! But, I refuse to give in to the nervousness. I just try to fight it with positive thoughts. As someone mentioned, you'll be better off next time around. With me, being pregnant with DD Mychael (delivered @ 23 weeks 2 days on October 17th, pre-e and hellp), my pre-e was misdiagnosed. I was told I didn't have pre-e on October 12th and went into labor and delivery 4 days later. Doctor never checked my urine for protein. I have chronic hypertension so that's something (pre-e) that should've been looked out for. I also have lupus. Anyway, I'm with a different MFM and am on baby aspirin, have already done a baseline urinalysis, and am being watched much more closely. Losing a child any way is horrific. I sometimes ask myself which is worse, having your child die before you've had a chance to meet him/her or after you've had some time. I've determined they're both equally horrific, something I never want to experience again. I pray for you and hope you don't experience pre-e. Coming to this board has made me SO hopeful. It's so good to read so many stories of successful pregnancies after tragedy. Read around andy you'll see. It's very comforting. Good luck and God bless!
10/17/2011 ~ Mychael Elaine was born sleeping. We miss and will always love you!
9/16/2012 ~ Michael Leon was born, God is so good! Severe pre-e again, induced at 34 weeks, c-section due to baby's heart decelerating with each contraction. 1 week in NICU. I'm done! :)

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby joker » Sun Nov 17, 639557 9:16 pm

I am so sorry for your loss.

I had PE at 19 weeks and my little girl was stillborn at 19 weeks. I want you to know, you can go on to have another baby. It will be scary, but you can have a healthy baby. For me, I did lovenox shots, weekly doctor visits a few times in the hospital, but Alison was born at 34 weeks and only spent 2 weeks in the NICU. Big hugs.
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Abigail-born still June 29, 2007; PE/HELLP @ 18 weeks
Alison-4/17/2009; PE/HELLP @ 34 weeks

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby kerisue » Tue Oct 15, 639557 11:55 am

Kimberly, I'm so sorry about baby Chanze. You're right, 13 min. was not nearly enough with a child you wanted to know and love for the rest of your life.
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born June 2010 @ 24 wks. gestation due to my severe PE and CHF
lived 25 days, loved and missed

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby ChanzeHNewman » Sat Sep 21, 639557 7:07 am

Hi Im kimberly newman I had pre e at 20 weeks and had my son at 23 wks and 6 days wer he died 13 mins after I deliveried him. I am also devistated and no one gets it not even my husband freinds or family. They think it was a sad situation and the saddness is pasted now for them. I am left with feeling like it happened 5 hours ago and wondeing why the earth still turns. It sounds superficial but I still dont get it either. its been 1 mo 3 weeks and 6 days since His name was Chanze Hunter Newman and my story is posted if you would like to know more, we had some things occur the same and may be of use to you. I hope yu find out what yourt looking for and if so please remember me cause I am in search of the same definative answers. I really think we really want a yes or no. Unfortunatly we cant have that a little bits and pieces do serfice. Anywho, if you ever need to talk or find anything out please let me know as I too am wanting to try again soon. I am 34 going on 35 the day our son should have been born on. Something I didnt mention was that Chanze was also a Trisomy 21 Baby.
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Ryan Rey Zarate 10/04/1996 born at 836pm no PE
Chanze Hunter Newman 01/27/2012 born @ 253pm flew to heaven to be with God and family members @ 305pm from severe PE Trisomy 21 with VSD, at 23+5
Big brother mommy and daddy miss you every moment.... 13 mins was not long enough but we know we get eternity soon.

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby brianned5 » Sat Jul 13, 639557 11:30 am

I'm so very sorry for your loss! My preeclampsia symptoms started around 20 weeks but was brushed off by my doctor. My baby girl was born at 25w2d due to severe preeclampsia/hellp syndrome. Kylie passed away 10 days later. Six months after I had her I got pregnant again. Obviously we were terrified the same thing would happen with this baby too. I went to a MFM and they gave me terrible odds and said be prepared because this will most likely happen again at the same time or sooner. We were devastated. After a couple weeks of searching I located a different MFM. They put me on foltx, baby aspirin, and calcium. In addition I was on BP medications because my pressures never went back to normal after having Kylie. These MFM's were so positive. I delivered my second daughter via c-section at 36w3d, totally free of preeclampsia. She is now a beautiful, happy, healthy 2 1/2 year old.
Brianne (28) DH (29)

(DD) Kylie Nicole ~ July 13th 2008 to July 23rd 2008. Born at 25w2d due to severe preeclampsia and hellp syndrome.
1 pound 6 ounces, 12 1/2 inches.

(DD) Kyndall Hope - September 21st 2009. Born at 36w3d. 5 pounds 2 ounces, 18 inches. PE FREE

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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby Jessica8872 » Sun Mar 31, 639557 6:15 pm

I can completely understand your thoughts and feelings. I too was diagnosed with preeclampsia and HELLP syndrome at 21 weeks and delivered my little boy the day he turned 22 weeks. I am also 26 years old and Christopher was my first and only child. I wanted to share with you my thoughts and feelings since going through that in October. At first I thought I would never again get pregnant for fear of going through preeclampsia and HELLP again and next time not getting as lucky as I did this past time-meaning next time I won't get to come home. I thought that would be the most selfish thing I could ever do to my loved ones. Then I felt the complete opposite - I decided to never again let preeclampsia get the better of me. I swore I would fight this stupid disease and never let it harm me or my baby again. I would fight it and beat it. Then I came to the realization that I was being extreme and letting my emotions get the best of me. So now I have talked to my maternal feral medicine Dr who helped me through my ordeal and have done some research. I decided to try again in 18-24 months postpartum. I will do all that I can to stop pre-E from happening to me again. I will be watched like a hawk and my pregnancy too will be considered high risk. If itdoes happen to me again, I will be more prepared and will do all that I can to sustain the life of my child and me. And, if it is to happen again, and I am forced yo relive that horror, my husband and I will adopt. But we are thinking positive and are doing what we can now. Don't give up hope. I haven't. Check out my is very much like yours. Keep your head up, and don't give up! I'm rooting for you! Hugs.
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Re: Preeclampsia at 21 weeks... will I ever have a baby?

Postby Shannonlynn » Mon Aug 02, 639554 5:17 am

I am very,very sorry about you losing your baby girl. I lost my son Fritzy at 24 weeks due to PE/HELLP and, for lack of better words, it SUCKS! Reading your post reminded me a lot of the events that happened to me. I remember crying my eyes out and waking up the next day and being able to push fluid out of my eyes, and that was a major sign that something bad was happening. I lost 18 lbs. of fluid in three days following the delivery of my son. I was very thin before I became pregnant. It is a wicked disease and totally unfair.

I think the fact that you are young is on your side. Don't give up on having another child. Get yourself an appointment with a peri and see if they can't help you. I found out I have antiphospholipid antigen syndrome (sticky blood) last summer and was really not expecting that at all. It gives some answers as to why the placenta gave up like it did. I am now 15 weeks pregnant and I take LDA, folgard, and lovenox 40mg 2x daily. For me, it is a leap of faith and I feel entirely different this time. What happened for me is that I was making myself crazy about when to start trying-the plan was May 2012. Then, I just gave up and said "I am not going to worry about it, if it happens it happens." And out of the blue, it happened. Now that I am in my second trimester the anxiety has come up a few ticks because as I approach the 20th week, I think people will be talking me off the ledge. It is scary but so far my blood pressure has hovered around 100/60 and lower, so that makes me feel better. And I opted not to do the triple screen to keep my sanity.

I am so sorry this happened to you. Take time to heal and know there are a lot of women here that understand what you are going through and are here to help.
((HUGS)) Shannon
Shannonlynn-mommy to Frederick Otto "Fritzy"
born May 6, 2011, became an angel one hour later
Severe PE at 24 weeks to the day
Gavin Walden born 8-4-12,lovenox, folgard, lda, prenatals. PE and HELLP free.

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