I get it now...

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anrmacon
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Re : I get it now...

Postby anrmacon » Tue Jul 21, 638308 11:46 am

Thanks everyone for your support. This is so difficult and really, only ya'll understand. I had yet another appointment today where I turned in my BP log for the past 3 days. No snide comments about my bp being great since I hit 153/70 yesterday, but baby looks great. No questions about whether I've been eating since I've gained 4lbs since Tuesday- too bad it appears to be from swelling and not caloric intake. According to my OB (saw him yesterday), "it sounds like they (the peri's office) are really getting worried about" me. Hmmm...news to me. I'm too tired to care right now. I asked the OB how soon we can deliver. He said we'll take it one day at a time. Don't get me wrong, I don't want a 31 or 32 or even a 33 weeker (unless it's necessary), but a 34 weeker sounds good. Hopefully, I won't feel much worse or be much worse, that's statistically a good time for a baby to be born healthy, and I'd really like to have him before I get as ill as some of you have and definately before my body reacts badly to him, harming or killing him. Yes, I have nightmares about that. Well, my two oldest are due home in an hour, so I'm going to take a nap before I hear all about the school day. =)

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Re : I get it now...

Postby shadow2356 » Mon Jul 20, 638308 10:02 pm

I hope you are feeling better soon. When people say you are crazy to be pregnant again its really because they are scared for you. I hear it all the time now that I have said I am going to try again. When it is all over and you have your little baby it will all be worth it. It will go faster than you think. I hope you keep him in there a bit longer and everyone stays helthy. (((HUGS)))

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Re : I get it now...

Postby amiejo » Mon Jul 20, 638308 8:03 pm

I am so sorry you have to deal with nurses like that. She needs to be a bit more sensitive and choose her words more wisely. I all to well know that yucky feeling...I had it with my last two PE babies (my first was sudden onset). It is a horrible feeling that is so hard to describe to others. You are doing great. Keep hanging in there. Vent anytime! Take care and hope the yucks go away for you!

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Re : I get it now...

Postby anthonyleah12 » Fri Jul 10, 638308 8:53 pm

Amanda, I don't have too much time to type.... (hopefully I will soon after Im not so sleep deprived!! hehe) But anyways, I am sorry you are going through these tough times. Just Hang in there! You are doing a great job. I am thinking of you and your family!

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Re : I get it now...

Postby caryn » Tue Jun 16, 638308 1:02 pm

Amanda, I hope you're hanging in there today, and feeling a little more stable.

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Re : I get it now...

Postby jonandkatsmom » Fri Jun 05, 638308 3:02 am

I am so sorry you feel so awful. I remember being in that space and there is nothing worse. Especially when no one seems to be understanding or taking it seriously. I know the nurses and doctors have seen worse and they want to keep us calm. I wish they would realize that when they minimize the situation it makes us more upset than if they just were honest.
My husband has talked to me since my pregnancy and he has said that it wasn't that he didn't care or didn't believe how sick I was... he just felt so helpless to make it better that he couldn't do anything. I wish I had known that then.
Trust yourself. You know how you have felt in past pregnancies.
Keep posting, truly talking to people here kept me sane.

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Re : I get it now...

Postby mnmom » Fri Jun 05, 638308 2:05 am

Amanda-vent away. We totally understand. That said, the facial swelling and heartburn are a little concerning. Yep, some of that is totally normal-but, with the elevated bp and the 444, and especially, that somewhat hard to describe "yucky" feeling, just really keep an eye on things. Take care.

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Re : I get it now...

Postby jenni_ann » Thu Jun 04, 638308 5:08 pm

I just wanted to tell you that you are certainly not alone. I am so sorry that you are feeling so awful, and I am hoping that you start feeling better very soon. Sometimes just having someone who has been there to vent to, someone that can understand where you are coming from, can make you feel so much better. The other day, I had a "breakdown" of sorts crying to my husband that no other woman "gets me" right now. I know there are plenty of women that have it so much worse than I do or had in the last pregnancy, but it is such a frightening experience to go through a complicated pregnancy. I really feel like I have no one to talk to at times other than this forum that I feel blessed to have found. I am a training specialist for a hospital, and part of what I do is "sensitivity training" for our staff. It sounds like the nurse who called your precious baby "a poop" could use some sensitivity training! I know that nurses do not mean to hurt our feelings, but words should be selected wisely. I really hope you start to feel less nauseated...just remember...not much longer to go. You can do it!!

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I get it now...

Postby anrmacon » Thu Jun 04, 638308 2:58 pm

I know I can post this on here without anyone looking at me like I'm nuts or overreacting or anything; I can't begin to express how grateful I am for having that. I'm sorry- this will be long.

I went back to the Peri on Friday, and lost my temper as well as my composure. I **really** don't like the nurses that work there on the NST/AFI side of the clinic. During the NST, the nurse came in and offered some ice water; I said no thank you and explained I had just finished a very large container of ice water (it's qt sized and I ate the ice, too). She replied if the baby didn't "stop being a poop" she was going to bring me some anyway. Okay, only my husband and I call our kids poops (although it's something else and NEVER a term for crap) and that only starts when the hit the proverbial terrible twos and start trying to figure out how to express & control their emotions. THAT made me angry. A little while later, I said I had a couple of questions. I asked if the low platelets changed my diagnosis. She replied, "No. Everything looks good. Your pressures are great and you have no protein on your strip." Then, she left the room. Um, where in this world does COUPLE = ONE??? Also, are you insane?? My baseline is low 90's/low 50's and it's been hanging around 130-140's/78+. NO, I'm not dipping anything- my 24 hr was 444. Isn't that enough?? And everything looks GREAT??? So, I was so frustrated, I cried. Seriously, is she ignorant or is she just of the mindset that moms don't need to know diddly? I would wonder if I'm just being hormonal, but I really don't believe that's the case.

When I was first put on bedrest, 3 weeks ago, I kept wondering how bad this was. I felt fine except for the headaches and had very little swelling. I wanted to do stuff. Now, I feel yucky. It's been gradual for about two weeks now off and on, but now it's full fledged yuck. I actually want to lay around now. My hands stay swollen. My feet are a bit puffy on the bottoms, but my ankles still look okay. My face feels tight around my eyes, nose, and mouth (the T), but it's only noticably swollen to my husband. I have heartburn/acid reflux to top it all off. And, I'm nauseous again. (I know for some that's a red flag, but my morning sickness never completely went away.) I feel like I did at 12 weeks pg- weak, nauseous, and just plain yucky. I actually woke up at 4 this morning compliments of a sick feeling stomach. Ick. I want to lay down, but it often makes it all worse.

This is how I felt when I was diagnosed with PE last time around, and I wasn't induced for 3 weeks when my kidneys decided they'd had enough. So, IF I can hold out for another 3 weeks, I'll have a 34 weeker, which is MUCH better than a 31 weeker. I still would love to have a little girl, but...I'm thinking I should go ahead and have the whole uterus/cervix removed and plan on adopting a princess to compliment our princes. What are the long term implications of having PE this many times?? No one really knows, but I do know it's tough on the body period. It's also difficult emotionally, and I'm not sure it's a good thing to put my whole family through again. (FYI, I don't want a simple tubal b/c of my family history with cancer- ALL the women have had to have a hysterectomy by age 32; I'm 26.) This whole thing is such a pain in the butt! I want to feel better and have a healthy baby. I used to mourn the loss of a natural birth with my other kids and actually planned one this go round. Now, that seems so insignificant. (I'll probably mourn it again later!!) Right now, I just want to feel good instead of a bedridden invalid, and have a wonderfully healthy baby.

Thanks for letting me vent and for understanding. Whenever I say anything, people are always saying insensitive things or looking at me like I've lost my mind to be pregnant again and if I had the energy I'd scream! My husband tries, but he really doesn't get it. He has his experience of it, and I have mine and it's two completely different things so he can't understand the cascade of emotions I feel and he doesn't understand the 'yucky' feeling since he's so rarely ill and never more than a stomach bug or a sinus headache. (Disguisting, huh?) So, thanks for being here. It helps.


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