2 questions: swelling & crying

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby joker » Fri Jul 20, 2007 10:35 pm

You are definitely not being too demanding! Is the OB you are seeing a maternal fetal medicine specialist? I know that the MFM specialist that I had during my pregnancy (where I got severe PE at 18 weeks and had to deliver) was always very concerned about any swelling in the body, no matter where it was and with my urinie output (but I only have one kidney).

If you are not happy with the care you are getting, maybe you should look into changing to a doctor who specializes in high risk pregnancies. I switched OB's after I found out I was pregnant, because I just wasn't satisfied with her level of conern for my already high risk pregnancy and I think it was the best decision I ever made. In fact, I think that it probably saved my life because my new OB caught my severe PE through routine blood tests that showed that my liver enzymes were elevated and she immediately admitted me to the hospital. Within 24 hours they had diagnosed me with severe PE and decided the only way to keep my organs from failing was to induce the pregnancy--and I had no symptons of any kind until 24 hours before being admitted to the hospital.

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby missgamecock » Fri Jul 20, 2007 10:03 pm

Ok here's my thoughts. When I was pregnant with Sara near the end, maybe it was my last appt with the peri. The machine kept going up and up and up just like you decided. I looked at my peri and asked did I break it. She said no your bp is really high. when it does that it means that the machine has to go up 20 points higher than your bp. So that is why it did that. I would just tell them next time to take your bp sitting up.

You know my ob is a solo ob. He does have two midwives and a np in his office, but I have never been called and told not to come. I think the longest I have ever waited for him was like an hour and 15 minutes. Somehow he manages to see patients and deal with patients in labor at the same time. Well I take that back, the very first appt I had with him , the nurse said that there was an emergency at the hospital and that she wanted to know if I would see the midwife. I told her that that was fine, except they said they wouldn't see me. He came into see me, but I don't remember him being rushed. Course the hospital is right across the street too. It may be that they KNOW I refuse to see anyone else now to but him.

I know when I had to have Sara which was an emergency induction. My peri called him. Then I went to the hospital and got there at 3. Office closes at 4. When I got there, he ran up to come and see me and get me checked in. Then he said he still had patients to see and would be back as soon as he got done. He came back at 430pm and was there the rest of the night. So maybe it's just me or maybe your dr has too much on his plate? Just a thought to throw out there.

I had an appt yesterday too for post op and he had an induction that he was doing (I know because I was walking down to the exam room the secretary said that there were two openings to him). I was in and out in less than 20 minutes. I had just sat down when they called me back (was not always this way when pregnant, but like I said maybe 30 minutes average wait).

Or maybe I am just lucky my doc does time management well. I'll have to ask him how he manages it.

But you are definitely NOT unreasonable and I would head into L&D whenever you can't get in. I would also ask your dr if this is normal and what he is going to do about it.

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby susan863 » Fri Jul 20, 2007 09:56 pm

Wow, I'd be crying, too. I'm glad you are using this forum to get all this off your chest.

Your story struck a chord with me, because after a particularly tearful afternoon at the L&D, when I had lots of symptoms but was not yet meeting full clinical criteria for pre-e, I was assessed as being "depressed and anxious" and told that this was causing my high BP readings. Then the midwife, followed by two additional well-meaning nurses, spoke to me about the virtues of antidepressants. I left that day with a prescription for Zoloft and proceeded to take it for a short time. Now, I have nothing against antidepressants. I've taken them in the past, and they've helped me, and I've seen them work well for others, and I believe that the decision to take them or not in pregnancy is a personal one between a woman and her health care providers. What gets me is that I started taking the Zoloft because I bought the assessment that I was first and foremost an emotional basket case, and that if I'd just settle down, my BP would be a lot better.

Whatever biological factors might have gone into my getting so tearful, including the potential effect of not-yet-diagnosed pre-e, there was also just the emotional toll of feeling so unwell for days on end and then not being taken seriously when I tried to ask for help.

Anyway... please keep us posted how you are doing. In my case, I ended up with severe pre-e and an emergency C-section, which is not meant to scare you at all, but only to validate you that you are right to ask for close medical monitoring. Repeatedly, if necessary. I'll be hoping for your and baby's well-being...


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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby alaskamommy » Fri Jul 20, 2007 09:38 pm

Thank you so much everyone for your support! I know I've said this before, but I don't know what I'd do without this forum!

Caryn - thank you for the wonderful scientific explanantion! I don't know if I've actually been diagnosed with PE yet, but I do know there was "some" protein in my urine, so maybe. I passed along what you said to my mother, who's been helping out with the kids a lot while I'm on bedrest. She said, well that explains a lot! She said she'd been really worried about me. Of course, it may still be that I'm losing my mind after all, but I'm going to blame it all on my placenta anyway, LOL!

It is also comforting to hear that other people get emotional too. It is so important to feel like I'm not alone!

Thanks again everyone!

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby heather100 » Fri Jul 20, 2007 10:24 am

Just wanted to give you big hugs!!!!!

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby amypete » Fri Jul 20, 2007 09:12 am


I've been reading all your posts and really feel for you! I think docs should take those emotional outbursts seriously, especially when combined with lots of other symptoms. That's what got me to my first induction. I just broke down during a NST and couldn't get myself under control. The peri decided I had had enough and was just going to get worse and induced. I wish the best for you. Be persistent! I'm glad you got some nice nurses (finally). Feel free to vent away.

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby cindyh27 » Fri Jul 20, 2007 08:45 am

Christina ((hugs)) How awful that you have to fight to be seen... you are not too demanding... not at all... I would do the same (especially with your history of PE) Bottom line, you and your baby come first!

Hang in there!

p.s. I cried all the time while I was pregnant

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby mnmom » Fri Jul 20, 2007 07:25 am

I'm sorry you had such a rotton day. I am glad they did some tests. Hopefully, you can get to the bottom of the UTI or not issue. And it is absolutely not unreasonable to be seen by a doc every two weeks. Come and vent whenever needed.

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby zoel » Fri Jul 20, 2007 06:31 am

HI Christina big hugs

So sorry your going through this. You have every right to be as demanding as you feel you need to be - this is your and your babies health so only you know best.

My wonderful ob told me at my visit yesterday that I could just see the midwife next week - I quickly told him that I was sure the midwife was great but I'd prefer to see him. He was happy with this and I know I feel alot more comfortable knowing I see him each week.

Take care hun, sorry I can't be of any help with the questions, Zoe

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Re : 2 questions: swelling & crying

Postby bonnie » Fri Jul 20, 2007 00:45 am

Christine, I am so sorry that you are having a hard time getting into to see your dr.

As usual, I fully agree with Caryn and Joy.

Until you asked this question, I never associated my "outburst" the night before my dd was born. I had been in the hospital, away from dh and ds, for quite some time but that night I burst into tears. I called my dh hysterical, telling him "I just needed to hear his voice". It was very much unlike me. I had been emotional most of my stay, and my peri acknowledged it too, but I didn't ever think of it as a direct link to the PE. All this to say, THANKS for asking this question and THANKS to Caryn for the explanation. --I learn something new everyday [:I]

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