Advise on 3rd pregnancy

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby isabelle » Mon Aug 08, 637966 8:53 am

Thanks so much for all your responses and I will definatley take up all your advise and meet a perinatologist and after this will follow my heart.

We are expats living in Asia and so there is so little here on PE and interestingly something that very few Asians appear to suffer from. You can feel so very alone here with these complications so I really appreciate your advise.

You are all so kind and wish you all the best.


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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby caryn » Thu Jul 28, 637966 1:19 am

Isabelle, welcome to the forums.

This is such a rough question to grapple with, for all of us. No one can really tell you what to do; you'll have to get the best information about your specific situation and your risks, and then make your decision with respect to those risks, and your own values. Ethically I don't think your doctor can even offer an opinion; your doctor can tell you the risks, but cannot advise you one way or the other, because it could be considered coercive -- make you inclined to think everything would be fine, or everything would be disasterous, and prevent you from making an unclouded decision.

A consult with a perinatologist (a high-risk OB, a maternal-fetal medicine specialist) is really the only way to assess your risks. That expert can only guess, too -- there is much about this disease that is still not understood -- but it'll place you in the best possible position for deciding where you'll stand.

The questions this disease poses to us are so awful (what would happen to my family if I stroked out? what if I never had a child of my own? what if I was on dialysis the rest of my life? what if my lonely child never has a sibling?) that talking to other women in the same boat is, I think, *very* helpful. I hope you'll be able to find lots of support for this on our forums.

It's a hard place to be. I would say that you have the ultimate veto here, because it is your life and your health at stake.

Good luck! My son is four, has asked for a sibling, and well. There we are. [:)]

Please do feel free to post more and email people while you work through this.

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby froggie89 » Wed Jul 27, 637966 6:20 pm

Isabelle, welcome to the forums! I agree with the others in having a pre-conception consultation with a peri along with being tested for any underlying disorders. Good Luck with your decision!

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby julie f » Wed Jul 27, 637966 5:07 am

Isabelle,

I just wanted to second Lisa's suggestion of meeting with a high-risk OB for a preconception consult. A doctor more specialized in this area may be able to give you some better information that will help to make your decision. Like Lisa also mentioned, they will likely test you for underlyng disorders that can increase your risk - if any of these are found, there are often ways to successfully manage them during pregnancy.

Also, here is what our Experts have to say about recurrence rates: http://www.preeclampsia.org/forum/viewt ... erms=sibai

The decision is a hard one, I wish you the very best no matter what.

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby Guest » Sat Jul 16, 637966 4:33 am

Hi Rachel/Isabelle

Isabelle - Sorry, I can't answer the question about whether a 3rd baby would be safe or not. My goal is to just have 1 healthy, normal pregnancy as I lost 2 sons to pre-e and IUGR.

Isabelle/Rachel - How are your kids doing physically and mentally seeing as they were premies and pre-e babies? I would be very interested to know about that because I am sure that IF (which is a very big IF) I am able to deliver a live baby next time that he/she would be a premie.

Please let me know.

Thanks,

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby rachelc » Fri Jul 15, 637966 7:23 am

I am in the exact situation that you are considering. I have two girls, born at 33 and 36 weeks. I had PE with both pregnancies and am pregnant with # 3. I currently have been diagnosed with PIH. Although, it can be hard physically and emotionally at times, it is well worth it. I would not have it any other way. Having the experience that you do can be to your advantage. You have a much better understanding than the average person of the symptons of PE and are more likely to be sensitive to those symptoms. This may help you receive earlier and more aggressive treatment. Choosing a good doctor is really important. Good luck with your decision!

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby ozierja » Thu Jul 14, 637966 5:48 pm

I agree with Lisa and woudl encourage you to seek pre-conception consultation with a peri- or MFM specialist. There are many things they can do to help with another conception including watching you very closely!

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Re : Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby lisainnj » Thu Jul 14, 637966 5:40 pm

You should certainly see a high risk specialist - a perinatologist or maternal-fetal medicine specialist for a pre-conception consultation. And you should ask for testing for such things as clotting abnormalities and antiphospholipid and lupus antibodies - these problems can lead to miscarriages as well as to PE.

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Advise on 3rd pregnancy

Postby isabelle » Thu Jul 14, 637966 6:31 am


Hi there. This is my first time on these boards. I have 2 beautiful girls age 4 and 6. I have also had two miscarraiges. I had preeclampsia during both pregnancies from month 4. My eldest was born at 36 weeks and my youngest at 34 weeks. Both delivered by c-section.

So I have spoken to my ob/gyn for her opinion on whether it is safe to have a third pregnancy given that the chances are high of this all happening again. She is undecided about whether it is the right or wrong thing to do.

Now I am asking any of you who come on these boards who have been in this situation to offer me some advise on this. We are blessed with our girls but in our hearts my husband and I would love another child but cannot deny that it's a little scary too. Thanks in advance for anyone who posts a response.


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