Dr.--2nd Opinion

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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby aimeejane » Wed Jan 14, 2004 09:08 am

The Today Show is doing a series on just this subject this week. The general message that they're trying to get across is that second opinions are a necessity!! The doctor who was on yesterday (or Monday?) basically reminded us that this is about YOU, not your doctor. If it hurts your doctor's feelings, that's too bad, because second opinions often save lives!


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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby tahoe4 » Wed Jan 14, 2004 08:23 am

My dr was very interested in what the first opinion was. In fact, I kind of felt like she formed her opinion around what I told her the other dr said. If I had to do it again, I would not reveal what the first opinion was until I had the second opinion.

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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby taras mom » Wed Jan 14, 2004 01:00 am

I'm with Catherine and Julie: If a doctor has a problem with you getting a second opinion, you might think twice about that doctor's judgment. A good and caring doctor won't feel threatened. When I went to doctor #2, it turned out that he knew #1; he had some additional suggestions about how to approach a new pregnancy, but no profound differences of opinion. Best of all, #2 didn't mind being my second choice, #1 was glad I'd gotten more information, and my regular OB is learning from both of them.

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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby lisac » Tue Jan 13, 2004 08:14 pm

Thanks so much for all your feedback. I feel more confident that its just normal to get a second opinion; he shouldn't feel that it's lack of confidence in his ability.

I'll let you know what he says, especially since what prompted the 2nd opinion was his rosy outlook about my odds of recurrence w/heparin--only 5%! The other Dr. said 20% and we don't know if the heparin will work. So I'm most curious where he gets this idea. I want to know what study/research he's using because I've never heard anything even remotely in that range for early PE. I wish...!

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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby julie f » Tue Jan 13, 2004 03:22 pm


I was really nervous about this issue as well. I absolutely love my doctor and I was so worried that she would feel slighted in some way if I asked to talk to someone else as well. When I brought it up, she actually said that if I ever ran into a doctor that had a problem with someone getting a 2nd opinion, I should be worried. So, I had an appt with the regular peri (delivered my son) and then with a peri at a teaching hospital that I had never seen before. They did have a difference of opinion on when to start the baby aspirin. I just recently saw my regular doctor again and the 1st thing she did was ask about my appt at UCLA. She was very interested in what they had to say and, we agreed to follow the aspirin schedule that the 2nd opinion peri recommended. All worked out very well. My doctor was not upset at all that I #1 requested to see someone else and #2 will follow their recommendation on the aspirin. I think she is just very happy that we're doing everything we can prior to conception to prepare. As if I'll ever be "prepared"...

I do think you should tell them about your 2nd opinion, you may find that they end up agreeing or, at least share with you why they don't so that you can make the most informed decision for yourself.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby akemt » Tue Jan 13, 2004 03:20 pm

I think a second opinion is fine and a good idea.

Personally, it would scare me if my doctor was upset that I got a second opinion. Would make me wonder why and probably make me feel uncomfortable with NOT getting a second opinion reguarding most anything that doctor did. Actually, I'd probably switch doctors if it were possible. But that is just me and I'm picky! lol Okay, and on a more human note...I could see a sudden shock or something, but the dr should get over it quickly, especially if you still show confidence in their care.

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Re : Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby laura » Tue Jan 13, 2004 03:05 pm

You know Lisa, I worried about the same thing with my doc when I chose to see a specific peri. I was pleasantly surprised at how good my doc was about it- he was really interested in hearing what another doc's take was on it. These high-risk cases aren't cut and dried, and there's not always a 'right' answer- I think some of them appreciate hearing another view on it.

Besides, you have every right to get all the opinions you can. They know what you've been through, and no one could fault you! Either way, good luck with your appointment- and let us know how it goes

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Dr.--2nd Opinion

Postby lisac » Tue Jan 13, 2004 02:35 pm


How do you think doctors feel about second opinions? I have a preconception consultation coming up, and I'm debating whether I should share the 2nd opinion. There are a few subtle differences regarding treatment (Dr. #2 wants to add aspirin along with the heparin). Dr. #2 also suggests a few more blood tests immediately prior to conception. They both know each other; and they are both highly regarded specialists.
I'm just concerned about insulting my doctor. I need to have a good relationship with him. Am I being rediculous?

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