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Post by amandared07 » Fri Jul 02, 2010 02:56 pm

My son was born at 32 weeks. I took 4 weeks off (used up my sick time, vacation time, and my boss let me work from home. My work does not have paid maternity leave). He came home after 3 weeks. When I went back to work my mom watched him. I have to say- it is much easier having a family member watch them and i would NOT recommend taking them to a day care for at least a year if you can help it. Also- I do not think I could have went back to work while he was in the NICU- however if you had to I would recommend going up before and after work so you can keep him/her supplied with Breast milk if you choose to do so.

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Post by marialynn242 » Sat Jun 19, 2010 01:54 pm

I didnt get to read all of the other moms post but when james was born via csection I took two weeks off since I work at a hotel and I sit at a desk all day it was easy for me to go back to work. The hospital James was at was an hour and half away so everyday after me and my fiance got off work we drove up there with my in laws and my father. I was only 19 at the time so it was nice to have family support when we went to the hospital not to mention we are close with our family. If he was doing bad I would take off work a couple days til he was good and then back to work and since I worked mostly nights I would go into a room that wasnt sold and pump breastmilk, it was convient. I dont know about other people but it was hard to stay up there and to fight other people for rooms they had a huge nicu and only 4 rooms so I would stay on the weekends and when he got transfereed to childrens hospital they had a chair that went into a bed that allowed me to stay alot more but for me I didnt have to be there every moment to feel like a mom I knew that I need to work so that when he came home I could take off a couple weeks to be with him although I missed out on a few things the nurses took very good care of him and I was there for the most important things like consulting with the dr to make sure they were doing everything they could to help him or checking with nurses every morning to see what his weight or food increase was I called about 3 times a day I bet they were glad when he went home haha I was definitly there for his surgeries and I got extremely lucky because my mother in law doesnt work so she came to my house to baby sit so I wouldnt have to take him out and he only left the house for dr visits otherwise she came down if we had to go somewhere mostly because he was still little and it was winter shortly after we brought him home. Even with all the running to the hospital and me being there alot of the nights my fiance was wonderful through it all and I wouldnt have been as strong without him. But I think its what works best for you I always told the nurses thank you because they were able to take care of him while I worked and I couldnt afford to not work. GOOD LUCK!!!!

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Post by aggie95mom » Fri Jun 18, 2010 10:31 am

I don't have anything to add that the other ladies haven't covered, but I did want to mention something about health insurance. If you are paying your full premium yourself, you may not have to worry about it not covering you if you aren't working (is that what you meant?). For me (I work for the fed govt so I'm sure this isn't applicable to everyone), I had the NICU write a letter that I submitted to my HR office that stated my son needed full-time qualified care due to his health issues and I basically went out on medical leave until he was 8 months old and then got a nanny. I wasn't getting a paycheck, but I was able to keep my health insurance coverage (the govt gave me the option of paying as I went or taking a debt and paying when I returned to work status).

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Post by l412angel » Mon Jun 14, 2010 11:21 pm

Jennifer...thats exactly how I feel. People say ohh be positive...or you can't think that way...unfortunately we have to...because we actually have to be prepared for the worse because as we all know it could happen...and who wanst to be blindsided?

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Post by jenmatt1 » Fri Jun 11, 2010 04:56 pm

Laura, my daughter the first time was only in NICU for a short time, but I worry about the same thing this time around. I remember looking around and wondering how some of those babies could be there by themselves during the day. I understand that every family is different and some may have had to work just to survive or have other children to take care of. I just don't know if I could leave there to go to work everyday without someone being with him or her.

I am lucky that I work at a remote office, so I have flexibility with my laptop to work other places. I have already told my supervisor, who is very understanding, because I need to be prepared for bed rest, no traveling, etc.

I figure at worse, I could work part time remotely and switch out times with family member. But I understand what you are saying. I feel like I have to be prepared for anything this time.

When I talk about my plans, people think I am crazy and being pessimistic. I am actually very optimistic but I feel like I can handle the stress of all of this better if I have contingency plans.

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Post by l412angel » Wed Jun 09, 2010 08:44 pm

Thank you all for your comments. I just want to get all my ducks in a row before next time around!

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Post by anonpreemiemom » Tue Jun 08, 2010 10:55 pm

Hi Laura: As you know my son was a 28 weeker and was on the vent for a month so he came home with lung damage or what is known as BPD (or CLD- chronic lung disease). I quit work and stayed home with him the first winter and pretty much the whole year. Then I got into consulting and started working from home. 2nd winter I got a nanny to come part time. 3rd winter we felt he'd recoved enough and he was in preschool (age 2.5 and beyond) He caught a ton of colds starting preschool but handled them much much better being older and stronger.

I strongly feel the time not in daycare the first two years helped give his lungs time to heal. I know many preemies who were in daycare the first winter and were hospitalized numerous times or who ended up with asthma as a result from cold after cold after cold. It really depends on the gestation (ie a 24 weeker micropreemie is going to have a harder time than a 34 weeker)

Fortunately now my son's lungs as as good as any full-termers and he fights colds fantastically. If you have to I would recommend anyone seek a smaller home daycare with fewer kids than a big center, or a nanny or au pair.

That being said I have alot of confidence you are going to go really far and all this will be moot!!

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Post by kara » Tue Jun 08, 2010 10:36 pm

Laura, I went back to work (part-time job) as soon as I was given the ok by my doc, which was 2 weeks after she was born. I wanted to go back to work to keep my hands busy, really. Dd needed to sleep and be quiet, and me sitting there was not healthy for me. I made two visits a day, as soon as I got off work around 1, go home for dinner and then back up to the hospital at 8pm for evening cares. I didn't have to worry about healthcare as we were both covered under my husbands policy. Depending on how many people your employer employees will determine whether you are eligible for FMLA. If you are an independant contractor, you may not be covered for the 12 weeks. It's best to discuss it with your employer...and get it in writing if at all possible.

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Post by blznbec » Tue Jun 08, 2010 05:54 pm

Everyone's maternity leave benefits are based through what their employer offer. Some women don't have any benefits (crazily, surprisingly true). It would be wise to check through your employer to see what benefits are offered.

A lot of women have the standard 6 weeks after a vaginal delivery and 8 weeks after a c-section and 12 weeks total through FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act), but not all get paid while on maternity leave. At my current job, I have 12 weeks total whether I was on bed rest or not and have to use my sick and personal time to make up my full pay through the 12 weeks. If I chose to be off longer than 12 weeks, I would not get paid and lose my health benefits.

For my first pregnancy, I spent the first five weeks in the hospital myself and with my son caring for him at least 12 hours a day. I then was able to stay home with him for the next seven weeks barricaded alone in our house with him since it was winter and the risk of him contracting RSV was very high due to prematurity. Not how I imagined spending my leave with my baby. With my second pregnancy, I did not require any bed rest and my daughter did not require a NICU stay, so I had the full 12 weeks paid at home with her. A much better and semi-normal experience of maternity leave. I was very lucky not to have to use my time beginning with bed rest.

These links might be helpful, but again check your benefits through your employer to be sure.



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Post by jennieexpo » Mon Jun 07, 2010 10:20 pm

When I had Maz I ended up not going back to work at all, I was originally gonna go down to part time but after 6 weeks in the nicu I couldn't do it. I wanted to be with him. Some of the moms I became friends with in the nicu used their maternity leave right away while in the nicu but I think it may just depend on what you prefer. I know if you can do kangaroo care as much as possible it really does do wonders and can help in the process of them coming home sooner. Basically it really helps both medically and emotionally to be there as much as you can. As far as taking off a whole year of work , thats a big step, however if you have adequate care for her/him while your at work, like someone you trust( definately not daycare..way too risky!) then that should be good. Its good your weighing your options now ahead of time though, and its all basically your own preference, I know with me I didn't make a definate choice til like a week after he was born and I never wanted to leave his side. You never know how you'll feel emotionally when and if it comes to that. And you may not have a preemie, you just never know. I hope this next pregnancy goes better for you and healthy:) We'll probably be pregnant together if all goes well, so we can be a extra support for each other:) Good Luck!